Yesterday I wrote a quick note about the challenge that the Lord had placed before me yesterday. I didn’t realize it at the time, but the next chapter in “The Mission of Motherhood” is entitled, “The Servant Mother.” This morning, after my prayer and Bible study, I opened up my book to this next chapter and was deeply moved. I believe that HaShem showed me that little snippet yesterday to prepare my spirit to receive what He wanted to teach me today – so if you haven’t read yesterday’s post yet, please do that really quick! (Link)
Today’s reading brought tears to my eyes. As a mom, completely immersed in the routine – and often mundane – tasks of motherhood, I tend to think a lot about the future. “Someday, my kids will be able to cook/do laundry/clean house for themselves,” and “I can’t wait until I get to sleep through the night/go out for more than 2 hours alone again” are thoughts I have on a daily basis. And I will admit, I struggle with resenting all of the time and energy that my children consume with minimal gratitude in return.
In this all-consuming calling of motherhood, it is vital that we remember why we are doing all of this!
“When we choose to graciously overlook our children’s messes and accidents, we are teaching them to be patient and forgiving with the mistakes of others. When we react sensitively, thoughtfully, and patiently to them, we are helping to instill these qualities in their lives. As they benefit from our unconditional love, they learn to extend it to to others as well. As they watch us extend hospitality, care for others, and pray for them, they learn to make service a part of life. And as they observe us searching Scripture, spending time with the Lord, and making faith-based decisions, they learn these things as well. Modeling loving service to our children gives them something to emulate in their own lives.” -Mission of Motherhood, p.66
Just as our Lord, Yeshua served His disciples and followers, we are called to serve the children that He has given to us to disciple! And this calling is one of infinite importance! But how do we do that?
“What does it mean to practice servant leadership as a mother? I believe it starts out with a choice. I have to choose to serve Christ by giving my time and energy to my children – not just when I feel like it but when they need me. This means I often must sacrifice my own needs and desires for the purpose of giving my children what they need and modeling for them the depths of Christ’s love… Choosing to be a servant-mother means willingly giving up myself, my expectations, and my time to the task of mothering – and choosing to believe that doing so is the best use of my time at that moment. It means that, by faith, I have already made a decision to make myself available in the routine tasks and myriad interruptions of daily life because I believe it is God’s will for me to serve my family through them.” -Mission of Motherhood, p.66-67
I love how she says, “…and choosing to believe that doing so is the best use of my time at that moment.” That’s what it’s really all about, isn’t it? We struggle with resentment because we wish we were doing something else. Because we don’t embrace that serving our children really is the best thing we could possibly do at any given time. So hard. So important. So life-giving.
Today, this will be my meditation. As I go about my daily tasks and care for my kiddos, I am going to work to remember that serving them IS the best use of my time at any moment. Serving them is serving my Lord.