Being a Servant Mother

Yesterday I wrote a quick note about the challenge that the Lord had placed before me yesterday. I didn’t realize it at the time, but the next chapter in “The Mission of Motherhood” is entitled, “The Servant Mother.”  This morning, after my prayer and Bible study, I opened up my book to this next chapter and was deeply moved.  I believe that HaShem showed me that little snippet yesterday to prepare my spirit to receive what He wanted to teach me today – so if you haven’t read yesterday’s post yet, please do that really quick! (Link)


Today’s reading brought tears to my eyes.  As a mom, completely immersed in the routine – and often mundane – tasks of motherhood, I tend to think a lot about the future.  “Someday, my kids will be able to cook/do laundry/clean house for themselves,” and “I can’t wait until I get to sleep through the night/go out for more than 2 hours alone again” are thoughts I have on a daily basis.  And I will admit, I struggle with resenting all of the time and energy that my children consume with minimal gratitude in return. 

In this all-consuming calling of motherhood, it is vital that we remember why we are doing all of this! 

“When we choose to graciously overlook our children’s messes and accidents, we are teaching them to be patient and forgiving with the mistakes of others.  When we react sensitively, thoughtfully, and patiently to them, we are helping to instill these qualities in their lives.  As they benefit from our unconditional love, they learn to extend it to to others as well.  As they watch us extend hospitality, care for others, and pray for them, they learn to make service a part of life.  And as they observe us searching Scripture, spending time with the Lord, and making faith-based decisions, they learn these things as well.  Modeling loving service to our children gives them something to emulate in their own lives.”  -Mission of Motherhood, p.66

Just as our Lord, Yeshua served His disciples and followers, we are called to serve the children that He has given to us to disciple!  And this calling is one of infinite importance! But how do we do that?

“What does it mean to practice servant leadership as a mother? I believe it starts out with a choice.  I have to choose to serve Christ by giving my time and energy to my children – not just when I feel like it but when they need me. This means I often must sacrifice my own needs and desires for the purpose of giving my children what they need and modeling for them the depths of Christ’s love… Choosing to be a servant-mother means willingly giving up myself, my expectations, and my time to the task of mothering – and choosing to believe that doing so is the best use of my time at that moment.  It means that, by faith, I have already made a decision to make myself available in the routine tasks and myriad interruptions of daily life because I believe it is God’s will for me to serve my family through them.” -Mission of Motherhood, p.66-67

I love how she says, “…and choosing to believe that doing so is the best use of my time at that moment.”  That’s what it’s really all about, isn’t it?  We struggle with resentment because we wish we were doing something else.  Because we don’t embrace that serving our children really is the best thing we could possibly do at any given time.  So hard.  So important.  So life-giving.

Today, this will be my meditation.  As I go about my daily tasks and care for my kiddos, I am going to work to remember that serving them IS the best use of my time at any moment.  Serving them is serving my Lord.


A Little Challenge for Today

A short but intensely-powerful challenge for you today:

I like to read inspiring and challenging book as part of my quiet time every morning.  Currently I am re-reading “The Mission of Motherhood” in preparation for the MomHeart group I hope to be starting up soon.  I read chapter three today, entitled “The Undivided Heart,” and was reminded of something very important.

When we are mothering our children, we are not only serving them, but we are serving Yeshua!  By being gentle to my children, by being compassionate and empathetic to their needs, and by being present with them throughout their daily trials, I am serving my Lord. At the same time, I am setting an example to them of how the Lord wants us to treat each other, and demonstrating His love for us!  What a powerful act of service!

~ Judy

Character – Deepened By Motherhood

Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about how much the Lord has changed me and developed my character through each of my children. When I think about how many character flaws on my life have been exposed through the constant companionship of my kids, I am humbled and (dare I admit it?) embarrassed.

Before we get married, we all have someone tell us about how our spouse will expose things in us that we didn’t know were there, and that if handled well, it will strengthen our character. The same thing is true of our children, and even more so! I know for me at least, my kids are with me pretty much 24/7 except for occasional times of solitude. I sleep next to my youngest, educate my 2 oldest, run errands with then in tow – they are my constant companions!  Anyway, that also means they have the constant ability to grate my nerves, test my patience and resolve, and push my buttons! 

But through them, I have wrestled through many personal issues, and I believe, come out on the other side with deepened character and integrity. And it’s still an ongoing act of refining – every day I must choose to allow the Lord to use these interactions with my children to change me and mold me into a better likeness of Him.

My challenge to you today is this: next time your child(ren) is pushing your buttons or grating on your nerves, take a moment to breathe and allow the Lord to grow in you patience, sympathy, gentleness, mercy, self-control, empathy, or whatever it is that you are struggling with. And then, thank Him for the blessing of the opportunity for growth that your children bring you!

Blessings on your journey,
~ Judy

Mom Heart Group – Coming Soon!

One of the biggest things that I believe HaShem is calling me to is to start a Bible study for like-minded moms in my area.  I have been blessed beyond words by the ministry of Clay and Sally Clarkson, and am so very happy to be starting a local Mom Heart group here in the Treasure Valley!  Mom Heart was started by Sally as a way to help mothers “to restore moms’ hearts to God’s heart for motherhood.”

My desire is to build a community of support for Christian mothers from around the area who have a passion for Biblical, heartfelt, gentle mothering. We will be non-denominational and open to mothers of children of all ages. Our meetings will include prayer, book & Bible study, and fellowship!

The first book we study will be The Mission of Motherhood, by Sally Clarkson (available in print and Kindle).

“Today’s culture minimizes the vital importance of a mother’s role. By catching a vision of God’s original design and allowing it to shape their lives, mothers can rediscover the joy and fulfilment to be found in the strategic role to which God has called them – for a purpose far greater than they can imagine.

In The Mission of Motherhood, author, speaker, and mother Sally Clarkson closely examines this God-ordained plan for mothers, introduced in the book of Genesis and upheld throughout his Word. Using practical examples, her own personal anecdotes, a challenging vision, and sound scriptural support, Clarkson upholds the traditional, biblical view of God’s plan for motherhood – giving mothers exactly the support they need to persevere in cultivating and sharing their hearts for God, for their children, and for their homes.” (from book cover)

If you are in the Boise area, and are interested in joining Mom Heart, please click on this link for a few more details and my contact info! (Mom Heart Page)

If you are not in the area, I would covet your prayers that I would be a vessel worthy and able to be a blessing to the women HaShem brings into my life!